adopting tears

Tonight I feel like I'm adopting tears.  I swear everyday something comes up that makes me lose hope then something else comes along to give it back.  No two days are the same.  Today it was one biological kid does not increase your wait time goes from 18 months to 3 years.  I know it is worth the wait but it's the fear that makes me question.  Questions like what if we go the infant adoption route and we NEVER get picked what if we go the foster to adopt route and we foster a child who hurts one of my biological children.  I am taking big breaths and waiting for inspiration, guidance and above all HOPE.

Doctor Who Posters and Guild comic books

The Bosley’s

Hi, from Saxapahaw  North Carolina! We’re the Bosley’s and we live on 2 acres near Chapel Hill, North Carolina.  Being so close to a University means lots of trips to museums, live theatre and outdoor concerts.  Living out in the country means your baby will grow up with two big sisters and small farm of animals.  They will learn the value of growing their own food and the fun of picking up eggs straight from the coop.  They will be a part of an amazing small community of farmers and musicians.   We thoroughly enjoy being parents and look forward to expanding our family. Our hearts are open and we are eagerly looking forward to caring for and nurturing another child in our home. We as a family love to take short trips around N.C including the beach every fall and the Mountains in the summer. We love to just pick up and go most weekends.  We have gone gem mining and apple picking all just on a whim.  Our big trip takes place every other year with a trip to Florida and Disney World.  We would be honored to welcome you and your child into our lives.

The Girls: 

Moya is 12 year old young lady and goes to the amazing Charter School Hawbridge located just down the street from our home.  The school caters to environmental awareness, the arts and cultural differences.  Moya loves Minecraft and Doctor Who.  She looks forward to being a big sister again.  Moya is a sweet girl with a lot of energy and is always willing to cook breakfast for her little sister!

Anwyn is our darling 7 years old she prefers to be called Ani.  She is currently in the 1^st grade and loves math and reading.  She still loves a good night book and cuddle.  Ani can’t wait to be a big sister for the first time.  She says she can’t wait to help out and feed the new baby their bottle.

The Parents:

Will (written by Casey) Will is a graduate from Ohio State.  He is a caring and fun loving father.  He loves his girls unconditionally and is always ready to sit down and help then with homework no matter how busy he is.  Will always has a garage full of projects but will drop anything if someone needs a hand with their car or home.  Will is also an amazing musician.  In our home we have 1 cello, 2 violins, 2 guitars and one piano so music will be a part of your baby’s life. Fun fact Will was a professional juggler for 3 years and drummed for the famous Ohio State Marching Band.

Casey (written by Will) Casey is amazingly gifted and wonderful woman.  She has been working with preschool aged children for 20 years and every one of her ‘kids’ love her.  One of the things that simply amazes me is that she not only knows every child’s name, she knows every child’s parents’ names as well as their siblings.  We joke that every time we go out to a store or a restaurant she sees someone she knows.  Another thing about Casey that I think you need to know is that she has ADD.  When Casey was a little girl her disability was very disruptive to her school work.  Most things in school were VERY hard for her to excel at.  At one point she was told by a teacher that she would never get into college and that she might not even graduate from High School. (great teacher, right?)  Well, not only did she graduate from High School, she got her BA from the University of Florida! (with a better GPA than I did, and I was in the gifted program in my school!)  Casey is an incredible teacher, a passionate advocate for all of her ‘children’ and a naturally funny person to boot.  I am so blessed that she continues to put up with me!

You are doing something scary and amazing.  We can never thank you enough for your selfless act.  We would welcome a relationship with you and invite you to remain a part of our lives as our child grows.

About the picture.   Doctor Who is one of our favorite shows and something we love to do is throw big DW parties we even have our TARDIS.  I know were Geeks but were geeks together.

Please follow us on facebook

 https://www.facebook.com/pages/Help-the-Bosleys-adopt/408863032584674

Or here with our adoption auction

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/bosley-family-adoption-fund/x/2241081

feeling frustrated

For the second time we were told we are not good candidates for infant adoption. 

I can't understand why someone wouldn't want an experienced mom.  I know what to do when a baby cries.  I know what to do for a skinned knee.  I know what to do with a cocky pre-teen.  WHY NOT BELIEVE IN US? 

I have taught preschool off and on for nearly 20 years.  I have loved each and every child who has entered my life. 

I have raised two girls with special needs.  I can do this!

I can love your child unconditionally because I know that even when your child gets angry and says hurtful things that this two shall pass because I know that this is all apart of life.  I will know when to push and when wait.  I have done this all before.  TRUST ME!

Please take a chance on us.

Sincerly,
a waiting patient experienced mommy 

 

The auction

                               Bob Caso

Here is our latest addition to our auction.  Bob Caso has been Film, TV, Theatre and Commercials.  They including Devious Maids (TV Series), Ring the Bell and Beverly Hills 90210.  His son Vince  and daughter Tara can both be seen on The Guild (TV Series).    

time to think

We took our oldest up to visit her grandparents in PA the trip took a total of 10 hours round trip.  I had plenty of time to read through a friends adoption book and all their MAPP work.  Aghhh we're in for a long journey.  I read all the questions and we will be asked and I feel out of my league. I really hope that when we take the classes that they give us some help and knowledge because I am very lost.  I thought I knew a lot about kids and how to raise them but let me tell you I'm scared. 

Learning how to be ok

Sometimes I feel like if only I could... then I could handle the situation we're in.  Tonight we spent the evening with two lovely women who have gone through this process and have had heart ache and joy.  I'm slowly learnering all about the world of adoption.  I will never learn it all but I hope I get just enough knowledge to figure out where we want to go.  

Here is our story https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/bosley-family-adoption-fund/x/2241081

and here is our auction 
http://www.32auctions.com/helpbosleysadopt

Please if you have been down this road and have any ideas or knowledge about adoption we're ready to learn.  

Everyday....

It feels like I go through every emotion in the book as we move forward with our adoption.

Today I was OK with not being picked for the Gladney Center then I was MAD why not pick us?  We're seasoned we know how to raise kids.  Then I was excited because well foster to adopt felt right then I talked to a friend and realized how much I still have to do and I was depressed.  Next someone donated something awesome for the auction and I am left feeling like I hope I don't let everyone down :(

 

Auction items

                  Amy Stern Photography

                            Cakes by Yelena

            Patricia Vollmer of Geek Mom

Will Bosley learn to change your oil and tires.

    Casey Bosley bonnet and knitting lessons

              Marisa Myers Hopkins fine art

Auction moved to the Sunday the 23rd

I had to move the auction due to lack of items.  I'm feeling a little frustrated by this but I'm not sure what can be done.  Just waiting to see if people will be willing to donate.  I know that money is tight for everyone so I hate asking but I'm just not sure how to make our dreams come true with out help.  So today I move the auction and hope that with a little bit of time I can get enough items to make it worth while for people to bid. 

We use baby signs in my toddler class so it seemed appropriate to add a sign to my post.

The long journey

Remember us?  Yeah its been a long time.  We have started the process of adopting.  Its a long, LONG journey and one that is scary and exciting and frustrating.  I'm going to use this blog as way to release some tension and talk about the highs and lows associated with Adoption.  We are so very early into this.  Right now we are checking out agencies and foster to adopt through the state.  So please visit often and leave comments.