adopting tears

Tonight I feel like I'm adopting tears.  I swear everyday something comes up that makes me lose hope then something else comes along to give it back.  No two days are the same.  Today it was one biological kid does not increase your wait time goes from 18 months to 3 years.  I know it is worth the wait but it's the fear that makes me question.  Questions like what if we go the infant adoption route and we NEVER get picked what if we go the foster to adopt route and we foster a child who hurts one of my biological children.  I am taking big breaths and waiting for inspiration, guidance and above all HOPE.

Doctor Who Posters and Guild comic books

The Bosley’s

Hi, from Saxapahaw  North Carolina! We’re the Bosley’s and we live on 2 acres near Chapel Hill, North Carolina.  Being so close to a University means lots of trips to museums, live theatre and outdoor concerts.  Living out in the country means your baby will grow up with two big sisters and small farm of animals.  They will learn the value of growing their own food and the fun of picking up eggs straight from the coop.  They will be a part of an amazing small community of farmers and musicians.   We thoroughly enjoy being parents and look forward to expanding our family. Our hearts are open and we are eagerly looking forward to caring for and nurturing another child in our home. We as a family love to take short trips around N.C including the beach every fall and the Mountains in the summer. We love to just pick up and go most weekends.  We have gone gem mining and apple picking all just on a whim.  Our big trip takes place every other year with a trip to Florida and Disney World.  We would be honored to welcome you and your child into our lives.

The Girls: 

Moya is 12 year old young lady and goes to the amazing Charter School Hawbridge located just down the street from our home.  The school caters to environmental awareness, the arts and cultural differences.  Moya loves Minecraft and Doctor Who.  She looks forward to being a big sister again.  Moya is a sweet girl with a lot of energy and is always willing to cook breakfast for her little sister!

Anwyn is our darling 7 years old she prefers to be called Ani.  She is currently in the 1^st grade and loves math and reading.  She still loves a good night book and cuddle.  Ani can’t wait to be a big sister for the first time.  She says she can’t wait to help out and feed the new baby their bottle.

The Parents:

Will (written by Casey) Will is a graduate from Ohio State.  He is a caring and fun loving father.  He loves his girls unconditionally and is always ready to sit down and help then with homework no matter how busy he is.  Will always has a garage full of projects but will drop anything if someone needs a hand with their car or home.  Will is also an amazing musician.  In our home we have 1 cello, 2 violins, 2 guitars and one piano so music will be a part of your baby’s life. Fun fact Will was a professional juggler for 3 years and drummed for the famous Ohio State Marching Band.

Casey (written by Will) Casey is amazingly gifted and wonderful woman.  She has been working with preschool aged children for 20 years and every one of her ‘kids’ love her.  One of the things that simply amazes me is that she not only knows every child’s name, she knows every child’s parents’ names as well as their siblings.  We joke that every time we go out to a store or a restaurant she sees someone she knows.  Another thing about Casey that I think you need to know is that she has ADD.  When Casey was a little girl her disability was very disruptive to her school work.  Most things in school were VERY hard for her to excel at.  At one point she was told by a teacher that she would never get into college and that she might not even graduate from High School. (great teacher, right?)  Well, not only did she graduate from High School, she got her BA from the University of Florida! (with a better GPA than I did, and I was in the gifted program in my school!)  Casey is an incredible teacher, a passionate advocate for all of her ‘children’ and a naturally funny person to boot.  I am so blessed that she continues to put up with me!

You are doing something scary and amazing.  We can never thank you enough for your selfless act.  We would welcome a relationship with you and invite you to remain a part of our lives as our child grows.

About the picture.   Doctor Who is one of our favorite shows and something we love to do is throw big DW parties we even have our TARDIS.  I know were Geeks but were geeks together.

Please follow us on facebook

 https://www.facebook.com/pages/Help-the-Bosleys-adopt/408863032584674

Or here with our adoption auction

https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/bosley-family-adoption-fund/x/2241081

feeling frustrated

For the second time we were told we are not good candidates for infant adoption. 

I can't understand why someone wouldn't want an experienced mom.  I know what to do when a baby cries.  I know what to do for a skinned knee.  I know what to do with a cocky pre-teen.  WHY NOT BELIEVE IN US? 

I have taught preschool off and on for nearly 20 years.  I have loved each and every child who has entered my life. 

I have raised two girls with special needs.  I can do this!

I can love your child unconditionally because I know that even when your child gets angry and says hurtful things that this two shall pass because I know that this is all apart of life.  I will know when to push and when wait.  I have done this all before.  TRUST ME!

Please take a chance on us.

Sincerly,
a waiting patient experienced mommy 

 

The auction

                               Bob Caso

Here is our latest addition to our auction.  Bob Caso has been Film, TV, Theatre and Commercials.  They including Devious Maids (TV Series), Ring the Bell and Beverly Hills 90210.  His son Vince  and daughter Tara can both be seen on The Guild (TV Series).    

time to think

We took our oldest up to visit her grandparents in PA the trip took a total of 10 hours round trip.  I had plenty of time to read through a friends adoption book and all their MAPP work.  Aghhh we're in for a long journey.  I read all the questions and we will be asked and I feel out of my league. I really hope that when we take the classes that they give us some help and knowledge because I am very lost.  I thought I knew a lot about kids and how to raise them but let me tell you I'm scared. 

Learning how to be ok

Sometimes I feel like if only I could... then I could handle the situation we're in.  Tonight we spent the evening with two lovely women who have gone through this process and have had heart ache and joy.  I'm slowly learnering all about the world of adoption.  I will never learn it all but I hope I get just enough knowledge to figure out where we want to go.  

Here is our story https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/bosley-family-adoption-fund/x/2241081

and here is our auction 
http://www.32auctions.com/helpbosleysadopt

Please if you have been down this road and have any ideas or knowledge about adoption we're ready to learn.  

Everyday....

It feels like I go through every emotion in the book as we move forward with our adoption.

Today I was OK with not being picked for the Gladney Center then I was MAD why not pick us?  We're seasoned we know how to raise kids.  Then I was excited because well foster to adopt felt right then I talked to a friend and realized how much I still have to do and I was depressed.  Next someone donated something awesome for the auction and I am left feeling like I hope I don't let everyone down :(

 

Auction items

                  Amy Stern Photography

                            Cakes by Yelena

            Patricia Vollmer of Geek Mom

Will Bosley learn to change your oil and tires.

    Casey Bosley bonnet and knitting lessons

              Marisa Myers Hopkins fine art

Auction moved to the Sunday the 23rd

I had to move the auction due to lack of items.  I'm feeling a little frustrated by this but I'm not sure what can be done.  Just waiting to see if people will be willing to donate.  I know that money is tight for everyone so I hate asking but I'm just not sure how to make our dreams come true with out help.  So today I move the auction and hope that with a little bit of time I can get enough items to make it worth while for people to bid. 

We use baby signs in my toddler class so it seemed appropriate to add a sign to my post.

The long journey

Remember us?  Yeah its been a long time.  We have started the process of adopting.  Its a long, LONG journey and one that is scary and exciting and frustrating.  I'm going to use this blog as way to release some tension and talk about the highs and lows associated with Adoption.  We are so very early into this.  Right now we are checking out agencies and foster to adopt through the state.  So please visit often and leave comments.  

Its been a long time since I posted something on here.  So here we go again.

So what have you been doing with your selves?   Have you thought about us?  


OK so Rose is now 10 years old and heading into Middle School.  She was diagnosed with Autism when she was 8 years old.  We like to call her our evil genius.  She continues to score in the 99 percentile for most if not all testing.  Yup she's smart!  


Lily is now 5 and starting Kindergarten.  WHAT??? Yup big girl is ready to go.  She has started to read basic words and loves to have people ask her math questions.  She also loves to sing and dance.  


Liam is always working hard but has started playing the guitar again with his local cousin.  I love hearing him play!  He has a bunch of motorcycles in different stages in the garage that keeps him busy.  Not to mention all the people he helps with their mechanical problems.  


I have two different home businesses going and for now still enjoying being a stay at home mom.  Not sure what I will do with my self next school year.  Perhaps its time to get a puppy or baby goat or kitty.  LOL I like to be needed.  


The garden is going strong and its only May.  We have picked lettuce and snow snapped peas.  The grapes and raspberries are looking awesome and should be ready to pick in a few weeks.  



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house for sale!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This from our great friends up in Circleville Ohio who are trying to move south!

If you know ANYBODY looking to buy a piece of land to come back to, send them to this page. We've got something for everyone. No really... Look, here I'll even give you the direct URL: http://greenbluebrown.blogspot.com/2010/03/instant-homestead.html

The house is about 2200 square feet, with 3 bedrooms and a loft that could easily be converted to a fourth bedroom (it's already got a closet even), plus a full unfinished basement. The land is just under 9 acres. About 6 acres are fenced pasture, with a 1 acre pond and another 1/2 acre "sunken marsh". (It was meant to be a pond, but it doesn't hold much water, so it's mostly cat tails, frogs, and red-winged blackbirds.) We're about 10 minutes from Circleville, Ohio (the Pumpkin Show!) and 30 minutes from Columbus. Based on local comps, we feel our asking price is fair at $264,900... but we can talk.

(Some of you are going, "Wow that's a lot!" and other's are going "Wow, that's all?" What can we say, real estate prices are what they are.)

What's so great about it? What does it have for me?

(No stock photos here, this is all legit...)

For the Nature Lover: We've got at least three species of frogs and one species of toad living here, along with a surprising number of salamanders. Our avian visitors include red-tailed hawks, great blue herons, bluebirds, barn swallows, barn owls, merganser ducks, mallard ducks, ring-necked pheasants, and even an occasional snowy egret. (Not to mention hordes [or possibly hoards?] of red-winged blackbirds, robins, cardinals, cowbirds, etc.) We get skunks and possums from time to time. Still hoping for an otter. Or a hippo. At least a dozen types of butterflies, and plenty of dragonflies and a fascinating array of beetles. The pond is well-stocked.

For the Bright Green environmentalist: Our pole barn has a big roof facing true south (I marked it off with my compass and even accounted for magnetic declination), for all those solar panels you always dreamed of. And plenty of room (and a good bit of wind) for the tallest wind turbine you can afford. There's a recycling center five miles away.

For the energy miser: CFLs throughout the house, R-60 insulation in the attic (mostly blown cellulose), a heat stove that can burn corn, pellets, cherry pits, sunflower seeds (or hulls), soybeans, or almost any other "granular" fuel. (Propane furnace serves as a backup.) A vaulted ceiling/loft that lets all that heat flow right up to the second floor, so the bedrooms can share the warmth. Low-E windows throughout. Removable shade screens to cut the summer heat. A super-efficient whole-house fan to draw in the cool summer night air. And of course the over-engineered clothesline.

For the Passive Solar enthusiast: We put in extra windows on the south face of the house for some winter warmth. We've got a porch overhanging some of the east facing windows, and a grape arbor overhanging some of the west facing windows to get some summer shade. We had plans to put up solar hot water panels as an additional shade structure over some of the south windows. No windows on the north face. In fact, most of the north face is a 2-car garage (and the beginnings of a green windbreak) to buffer those winds out of the north.

For the Local Food enthusiast: We've got a number of other small farmers close by and one good sized organic dairy. And a fabulous farmers' market in the next town over.


For the gardener: That south-facing barn was built with an attached greenhouse in mind. The soil in the garden area has been amended with: Several pickup loads of finished compost from the nearby organic dairy, many bags of leaves from yards in town, dried molasses, hay, straw, shredded paper, newspaper, cardboard, worm castings, composted wood chips, and manure from chickens, goats, cows, and a donkey. Oh and lots of biochar from our biomass stove and wood ash from when we burn pellets. And no chemicals. And scattered wildflowers.

For the edible landscaping enthusiast: We've got apple trees, peach trees, cherry trees, grape vines, gooseberries, currants, sunchokes, asparagus, and a big patch of lemon balm. And possibly some salvageable nut trees if you can baby them a bit.

For the livestock enthusiast: We've got a chicken pen inside the pole barn, and a milking stall suitable for cows or goats. And room for plenty of hay. We've got acres of pasture well suited for rotational grazing, and fences built to last. The property has had no [pesti/fungi/herbi/insecti]cides of any kind on it, and it's got a nice variety of grass and red clover with occasional volunteer alfalfa, wheat, corn, wildflowers, etc. We've also got an Amish-raised Jersey cow who gives gallon after gallon of amazing cream-colored high-butterfat milk. It makes awesome butter, ice cream and yogurt (and presumably some incredible cheeses too, though we haven't gotten that far). She's bred to a proven Angus bull for your grass-fed beef needs. She doesn't come with the house, but if you're interested, she certainly can.

For the small farmer: We've got lots of room to grow small row crops, with pasture gates wide enough to fit most any equipment that would make sense on this scale. We've also got a Ferguson TO-30 tractor, a bush hog, and a 2-bottom trip plow we could throw in. The soil is already fabulous, and we've been working hard to improve it.

For the aesthetically inclined: The sun rises out your bedroom windows and sets out your living room windows. There's nothing ostentatious about this place, but it does have oak trim throughout, and most of the doors are solid oak. It's got beautiful stonework around the fireplace. It's got light-stained maple cabinets in the kitchen, and French doors leading to the dining room. It's got a vaulted ceiling up to the loft. It's got a big wrap-around front porch.

For the busy parent: It's got a 50x50 fenced back yard, and it's in a great school district (with a fabulous special needs program). And lots of room to roam and explore. And a surprising number of kids in the area.

For the homeschooler (or the amateur inventor, or the artist): it's got a 6-foot tall chalkboard in the kitchen. And great spaces for books and projects. The main library up in Columbus is regularly rated as the best library in the nation.

For the cook: We've got a wide-open oversized kitchen with tons of cabinets and counter space and a lovely south-facing window for a little herb shelf.

For the telecommuter: We've got DSL or WildBlue (satellite) for your broadband needs.

For the lazy mover: Everything in the house or on the property is negotiable except the kids, the dog, and the cat.

For the pumpkin enthusiast: The Circleville Pumpkin Show!


For the Red-Blooded American Consumer: Walmart, plus one of each of the major fast food chains.

For the TEOTWAWKI Zombie Hunter: We've got a clear view all around, with visibility approaching ten miles in some directions. We've got a full basement that's perfect for your underground bunker, root cellar, cool storage, and weapons cache. 20 miles from the nearest big city, but just 5 miles from (non-passenger) rail lines and a mile from a small river.

PLUS IF YOU ACT NOW, we'll throw in contacts for any/all of the following (a list I wish I had when we moved in):

• A local organic dairy farmer who will load up your pickup truck with finished compost for next-to-nothing
• Several neighbors who will cut and bale hay from your pastures (or who can sell you hay if you need it)
• A neighbor who will rent your pastures for his beef cattle if you'd rather that than the hay
• A neighbor who raises pastured poultry and garden vegetables
• Next-door neighbors who are both nurses, and have kids of all ages in case yours need instant friends
• A garbage collector who will come up the long driveway to get your trash, so you don't have to drag your garbage cans across all that gravel.
• A neighbor who can fix tractors if you need it
• A neighbor who can repair/replace tires (tractor or otherwise)
• A nearby source for dried corn in case you want to use it in the corn/pellet heat stove.
• A reputable auto repair shop
• A neighbor with a snowplow that can handle a gravel driveway if needed
• Various neighbors who raise cattle, hogs, sheep, goats, llamas, horses, turkeys, and chickens in case you need advice on any of them.
• A great local source for honey
• A great local-only farmer's market

So click on my profile and email me. I'll send you the full listing with photos of the house and everything. Don't delay - the zombies could be on their way at any time. Operators are standing by.